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Love vs. Infatuation
Infatuation is instant desire, one set of glands calling to another.
Love is friendship that has caught fire. It takes root and grows,one day at a time.
Infatuation is marked by a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and eager, but not genuinely happy. There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits pieces about your beloved that you would just as soon examine too closely. It might spoil the dream.
Love is the quiet understanding and mature acceptance of imperfection. It is real.It gives you strength and grows beyond you,to bolster your beloved. You are warmed by his presence,even when he is away. Miles do not separate you. You want him near. But near or far, you know he is yours and you can wait.
Infatuation says,”We must get married right away. I can’t risk losing him.”
Love says, “Be patient. He is yours. Plan your future with confidence.”
Infatuation has an element of sexual excitement. Whenever you are in one another’s company you are hoping it will end in intimacy.
Love is the maturation of friendship. You must be friends before you can be lovers.
Infatuation lacks confidence. When he’s away, you wonder if he’s cheating. Sometimes you check.
Love means trust. You are calm, secure, and unthreatened. He feels your trust and it makes him even more trustworthy.
Infatuation might lead you to do things you’ll regret later, but love never will.
Love lifts you up. It makes you look up. It makes you think up. It makes you a better person than you were before.
I have learned
4 years ago
in Writings
.. that you cannot make someone love you.
All you can do is be someone who can be loved.
The rest is up to them.
I’ve learned that no matter how much I care,
some people just don’t care back.
And it’s not the end of the world.
I’ve learned that it takes years to build up trust,
and only seconds to destroy it.
I’ve learned that it’s not what you have in your life,
but who you have in your life that counts.
I’ve learned that you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes.
After that, you’d better know something.
What does love mean?
A group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4 to 8 year-olds: “What does love mean?” The answers they got were broader and deeper than anyone could have imagined. See what you think…
“When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn’t bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That’s love.”
Rebecca – age 8
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“When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You just know that your name is safe in their mouth.”
Billy – age 4
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“Love is what makes you smile when you’re tired.”
Terri – age 4
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“Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK.”
Danny – age 7
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“Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more. My Mommy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss.”
Emily – age 8
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“Love is what’s in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen.”
Bobby – age 7 (Wow!)
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“If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate.”
Nikka – age 6
(we need a few million more Nikka’s on this planet)
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“Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday.”
Noelle – age 7
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“Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well.”
Tommy – age 6
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“During my piano recital, I was on a stage and I was scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling.
He was the only one doing that. I wasn’t scared anymore.”
Cindy – age 8
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“Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken.”
Elaine – age 5
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“Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford.”
Chris – age 7
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“Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day.”
Mary Ann – age 4
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“I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones.” (Now THIS is love!)
Lauren – age 4
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“When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you.” (what an image!)
Karen – age 7
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“Love is when Mommy sees Daddy on the toilet and she doesn’t think it’s gross.”
Mark – age 6
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“You really shouldn’t say ‘I love you’ unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget.”
Jessica – age 8
Article Source: http://www.redsofts.com/articles/
The Moods of Rumi
The Agony and Ecstasy of Divine Discontent:
The Moods of Rumi
In the orchard and rose garden
I long to see your face.
In the taste of sweetness
I long to kiss your lips.
In the shadows of passion
I long for your love.
Oh! Supreme lover!
Let me leave aside my worries.
The flowers are blooming
with the exultation of your spirit.
By Allah!
I long to escape the prison of my ego
and lose myself
in the mountains and the desert.
These sad and lonely people tire me.
I long to revel in the drunken frenzy of your love
and feel the strength of Rostam in my hands.
I’m sick of mortal kings.
I long to see your light.
With lamps in hand
the sheiks and mullahs roam
the dark alleys of these towns
not finding what they seek.
You are the essence of the Essence,
The intoxication of love.
I long to sing your praises
but stand mute
with the agony of wishing in my heart.
(via YouTube)